Maisya Agatha's Personal Universe » Friendship https://maisyaagatha.com Maisya Agatha's Personal Universe Thu, 20 Jun 2013 05:53:47 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 The Balance of Friendship https://maisyaagatha.com/the-balance-of-friendship/ https://maisyaagatha.com/the-balance-of-friendship/#comments Mon, 31 Oct 2011 15:59:53 +0000 maisyaagatha http://maisyaagatha.com/?p=409 Foundation

Friendships, like any relationship worth having, require a lot of hard work and energy, and are built on a foundation of trust and respect. In a word, integrity. And over time, those aspects should naturally deepen. After all, you’re friends because you like each other and have discovered a kindred spirit of some sort, whether you’re soccer moms, hunting buddies, classmates, or neighbors. The thing that drew you together, however, cannot always keep you together. You must often make effort beyond that. A lot of effort.

Responsibilities

Friendship often requires you to go more than the extra mile. You may find yourself having to go the extra hundred miles. And if you are true friends, that won’t be a problem, even when you don’t really want to do what’s being asked of you. It’s easy if you want to do it, but anybody can do that. Friendships get tested, as do all relationships, when you’re asked to go above and beyond even that extra mile. That does not, however, mean that you are required to put out every fire, or that you should do something that’s ethically or morally wrong. Being a great friend does not equate to being a yes person. Everyone gets off track once in a while, and as friends, you have a responsibility to protect the friendship, and your friend.

Balance

The balance of friendship means give and take on both sides, and sometimes going those extra miles can be draining. In the short term, that’s okay. If you find, however, that you feel constantly drained because you are giving more than you’re getting, then it’s time to rethink things. Some people are very good at taking, but not so good at giving. That is not a healthy relationship.

I’m not talking about perfection here, or keeping tally. The best friendships do not keep track. Neither are they draining. When you think about spending time with a friend, you should look forward to that. You should not feel obligated, or dread the day.

I have a girlfriend who is like a sister to me. We met through work, and the day our jobs were dissolved, we resolved to stay in touch, and we do. Not always as often as we would like, and sometimes we really have to work at it due to schedules and finances. But it’s worth the hassle that it can sometimes be, because the reward is too good to miss.

When to Let Go

Sometimes friendships are forever, and sometimes they are only for a season. It’s part of the circle of life. A chapter opens, or a chapter closes. And when they close, for whatever reason, it can be difficult. Sometimes you might be holding the door for that person, but often you will feel a sense of relief, regardless. At that point, you need to just let it go. Let it be over. Just be sure to open yourself to new relationships. Don’t beat yourself up. Reviewing and evaluating are good things, in balance, and you can learn much about yourself and grow from it. Don’t dwell. Life is too short. And there are way too many people out there waiting for a chance to be your friend.

Final Thoughts

If you are reading this, I hope you will take a look at your friendships, do some self-review, and be honest with yourself about whether you give as well as you take. If you must err, do so on the side of giving, but not to the point where you are drained. Fight for balance. Your friendship will be richer for it!

]]> https://maisyaagatha.com/the-balance-of-friendship/feed/ 762 True Friends Walk With You In All Circumstances https://maisyaagatha.com/true-friends-walk-with-you-in-all-circumtances/ https://maisyaagatha.com/true-friends-walk-with-you-in-all-circumtances/#comments Fri, 01 Jul 2011 11:06:06 +0000 maisyaagatha http://maisyaagatha.com/?p=203 Life is full of challenges and every human being requires a friend to confide in. Being a social being, man seeks emotional support in facing the challenges. Finding a good friend means one has to work hard to be a good friend themselves. Offering emotional and mental support, encouraging and not degrading your friend under any circumstances. Being able to share just about every thought,good, bad and ugly makes a friendship special. The most important thing one can offer in a friendship is presence. Your presence in the face of disaster or worse scenario is appreciated much more than if you just attended the friend”s birthday parties and showed up at all good events together. Being there for each other in times of need is important for any friendship to grow and last forever.

Every person on this planet desires to have a very special friend-one that they can count on-no matter what. Yes, it is possible to find friends who do not belong to the same economic status or educational background. It is heartening to note that they will go to any lengths to be there for each other during times of emotional upheavals, bereavement,etc, as also weddings and birthdays. Financial support may be offered in times of crisis.
Every friend is different and it is upto you to choose how you want to offer your support depending on your circumstances, and how close you are to this particular friend.

]]> https://maisyaagatha.com/true-friends-walk-with-you-in-all-circumtances/feed/ 776 Qualities of a Good Friend https://maisyaagatha.com/qualities-of-a-good-friend/ https://maisyaagatha.com/qualities-of-a-good-friend/#comments Sun, 13 Mar 2011 15:25:02 +0000 maisyaagatha http://maisyaagatha.com/?p=167 Friendships are precious. We forge countless friendships as we go on with our lives. We come to expect a lot out of them and of our friends. Good friends, however, are hard to come by. We are often disappointed at a friend having let us down. While it takes a lot to build up friendships, it takes a matter of seconds to destroy them. The disappointment is greater often times because we have not recognized a friend as being a good friend. There are friends and there are good friends. Good friends can be differentiated from the rest by certain characteristics, which may seem obvious, but are rarely reflected upon by most people. If you really want to know if a friend is a good friend, then evaluate them on the following parameters.

Trust: A good friend is someone you can trust totally with your deepest and darkest secrets, knowing full well that they would not share it with anyone else. A good friend will not break your trust and gossip behind your back.

Loyalty: A good friend is absolutely loyal to you through thick and thin. A good friend doesn”t betray you when the going gets tough. A backstabbing friend is no friend.

Honesty: A good friend is someone who is not a “YES person.” They will not be afraid to criticize you or point out your flaws. A good friend will not think about pleasing you at all times by saying YES, when in fact the situation warrants that they say things which may be unpleasant, but true.

Accepting: A good friend accepts you for what you are, no matter what the world thinks of you. A good friend does not try to change you, except for suggesting things you can improve upon and pointing out where you are going wrong, constructively.

Supportive: A good friend always supports you, especially when you need their support. A good friend enjoys your successes as if it were their own. A good friend isn’t jealous or envious of your successes.

Helpful: A good friend is someone who takes the time to help you out with things you need helping out with, without looking at it as a chore or avoidable hassle.

Understanding: A good friend is one who understands you and knows when something is troubling you. When others can”t see anything wrong with your body language, a good friend knows something is up, seeks to find out the source of the trouble and helps come up with solutions to the problems you are having.

Sacrifice: A good friend makes sacrifices for you and isn’t selfish and self-centered. You matter equally to them – their world doesn’t just revolve around themselves.

Money: A good friend doesn’t let money get in the way of your friendship. They don”t hang around with you for your money or the perks that come with it. A good friend stays with you and supports you irrespective of whether you are rich or poor.

Share Interests: A good friend may not always share all of your interests, but should at least share a few of them.

Listener: A good friend is a good listener, who is there to listen to you whenever you need to share your thoughts.

Respectful: A good friend would not put you down in front of others. They would respect you and would treat you just the way you would treat them – with respect.

Friends are hard to find and good friends, harder still. If you have a truly good friend, you are one of the lucky few because good friends aren’t that easy to find these days, so count your blessings and keep your good friend! They are truly invaluable and irreplaceable.

]]> https://maisyaagatha.com/qualities-of-a-good-friend/feed/ 928 True Friendship https://maisyaagatha.com/true-friendship/ https://maisyaagatha.com/true-friendship/#comments Mon, 23 Aug 2010 13:27:54 +0000 maisyaagatha http://maisyaagatha.com/?p=146 True friendship is defined as a natural and spontaneous reaction towards a person with unconditional love and ultimate support to a person in all areas of life.

True friend is the one who is always with you when the entire world rejects you. The true friend is like a mirror who reflects a real you to you.

True friendship is like a 100% safe journey in this rough and unpredicted world of twists.True friendship is always fresh and rejuvenating .

True friendship means a mothers unconditional love , a lovers affectionate pat, a friends lovable hug.

If we observe children, they share their feelings, things and thoughts among themselves without any inhibitions. They console their friends when they are in problems and share happiness when they are happy. We will find a fresh and wonderful relation of friendship among kids which is the real and true manifestation of friendship.

As we grow, Once we reach towards teenage, we will be attracted towards worldly possessions and here, we will get confused on who is our true friend and who is not. We will be busy in deciding our future career or aping all fashions and we may miss the track of friendship here.

When we reach thirties, we will be busy in marriage and taking care of kids and their education. But we need somebody to meet and share our ideas and need suggestions from friends. Here also , we miss true friends as all will be busy in pursuing their future.

When we reach forties, we will be more close to ourselves and start analyzing ourselves more intensely. We need friends who are like our shadows who can tell us what are our mistakes and what are our strengths and weaknesses.

When we grow older, we again feel like kids and we need more friends to true friendship. If we are fortunate enough to maintain childhood friendship to this level, then that is wonderful. Otherwise, we have to search for them to lead a meaningful life.

I remember always my wonderful childhood friends who share with me food and shelter and I always wonder at their empathy and caring.

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